Styles of Parenting
Authoritative, authoritarian, neglectful and permissive are all different styles of parenting
There are four types of parenting styles in today’s society: authoritative, authoritarian, neglectful and permissive. Each one has different characteristics that often bring different reactions when imposed on your child(ren). Let’s briefly discuss each one so you can compare.
Authoritative is the most effective and beneficial style of parenting for normal children. Parents who recognize the high expectations but also comfort with a decent amount of understanding of support. Authoritative parenting also allows an open line of communication that’s free of judgment and reprimand. This healthy parenting method often develops a good parent/child relationship.
Authoritative parenting involves having a structured day, such as planned bedtime and understood household rules. They also tend to have consequences for disrupting this structure, but the child understands the expectations for their behavior. Also, authoritative parents have a healthy line of open communication between themselves and their child without giving harsh judgment or reprimand, as previously stated.
Authoritarian parenting is also known as strict parenting can be too much for some children. Parents who are demanding but not responsive and allow for very little open dialogue between themselves and their children fall under this style of parenting. These parents usually rely on punishment when their strict set of rules or expectations have been broken.
Authoritarian parents enforce very strict rules that should be followed no matter what. They find themselves offering no explanations for the rules other than “Because I said so.” Kids are allowed to make few or no decisions about their life. Authoritarian parents utilize punishment as a means to getting their child to do what is asked and they are more reserved in nurturing their children.
Neglectful parenting is a harmful style that can cause children to feel unwanted, show aggressive behavior or not trust anyone. These parents and children need assistance to moving towards a healthy and communicative relationship. Neglectful behavior can stem from response to child behavior and should be addressed immediately.
Neglectful parents will often disregard their child’s emotional, physical and other needs. They may also lack understanding of what’s going on in their child’s life and may not provide a safe space for their child to share experiences with positive feedback. Neglectful parents often spend long periods of time away from home while the child is left alone, find excuses for not being there for them, may not know their friends and teachers, and may not be involved in extracurricular activities.
Permissive parenting is also known as indulgent parenting and can be potentially harmful to children as they grow. Permissive parents are responsive but not demanding and tend to be more lenient to avoid confrontations. However, these parents are usually very nurturing and loving, but there’s often a lack of structure as rules are often inconsistent. This can cause self-discipline problems and self-control as they have complete freedom to do what they choose.
Permissive parents will not set limits or rules and often compromise them to accommodate the child’s mood. These parents are more concerned with being their child’s best friend than their parent. Permissive parents will also bribe their children with large rewards to do what is asked.